Why do I feel like something bad is going to happen to me?

Just like we had no control over rain, you have no control over bad things, they can happen any number of times

Because bad things always keep happening to you.

One weekend (rainy season) : Since it was raining we had two choices, either stay back home or go out wearing the raincoats. At first, your mind will tell you to choose the easy option because rain, sweat and raincoat will be just too much to bear. But then we thought, if we stay back what are we going to do anyways? Sleep more, watch TV and eat in our bed? And where’s the fun in that? So we went ahead with our regular plan and enjoyed crispy chicken lollipops in the rains. Walking 12KM wearing raincoats was worth it.

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Lastly, don’t let the bad things discourage you from living your best life. (Sounds unrealistic, I know, but seriously think, do you have any other choice?)

If you stop fighting or withstanding the bad things in life, you stop living and start surviving

Cheers, AK

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Me and my husband have a ritual almost every weekend : we start from our house early morning, walk almost 12 KM to reach VR Mall and catch a morning show at INOX. Later we’d have mutton/chicken & butter naan for lunch at Masala Canteen and then finally take an auto back home.

Staying comfortable might save us from temporary inconveniences but it can’t offer exponential rewards

Choosing the uncomfortable option might seem daunting at first but it will also offer unprecedented experiences

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Lessons learnt :

The next weekend : Since it was not raining this time, we just took an umbrella for backup and started the walk. As soon as we covered initial 1KM or so, a torrential downpour occurred and we took shelter for sometime. After waiting 15min, we again had two choices, either go back home or continue with the plan. We decided to go ahead but the wind gusted and our umbrella snapped. Again we had two choices, go home which is near or walk remaining 11KM while it’s still raining, temperature is chilling & big droplets are hitting our heads. After careful analysis, we again came to conclusion that the hard way is the only way. How on Earth can we benefit from staying comfortable at home when a little inconvenience can get us movie, lunch and also a chance to buy new clothes? As soon as we reached the mall, we bought fresh pair of pyjamas, T-shirts & flip-flops too; this shopping experience was gratifying.

And you always manage to withstand those bad things but as soon as you get out of one bad thing the next bad thing happens. Although you are a fighter, you are afraid how long can you keep fighting? You want to enjoy some good times too but you can’t catch a break.

I’m wondering about attachment and transference with the therapist and the idea of escape and fantasy? How much do you think your strong feelings, constant thoughts, desires to be with your therapist are a way to escape from your present life? I wonder if the transference serves another purpose than to show us our wounds and/or past experiences, but is a present coping strategy for managing what we don’t want to face (even if unconsciously) in the present—-current relationships, life circumstances, etc. Can anyone relate to this concept of escape in relation to their therapy relationship? How does this play out for you?